Hi! I've been getting feedback on what people would like to see me cover in the class this upcoming Wednesday, May 15th, about saying what you mean and being well-liked! One of the themes I'm seeing is with regard to the "other." Like how do I make the other see/do/etc.... ? So... People have free will. You can't directly change anyone's internal reality, but you can enter through a side door. For example, last night, one of my clients was talking to me about showing in her writing that the...
7 months ago • 1 min read
Goooood afternoon, my friend. (Or evening, morning, whenever you open) I was thinking today on my walk home from the river about the class I'll be teaching this May 15th about how to say what you mean and still be well-liked. Today, I was thinking about the awkward position one gets put in when someone says something you just. do. not. agree. with. You know, something political, or related to war, religion, or any other topic that you may have strong feelings about. What I hear most from...
7 months ago • 1 min read
Hey! In the last week, I had a similar dialogue with two different people. The first was with a friend I was eating lunch with last Tuesday. We sat outside this cute Mexican restaurant in NoMad, and he told me about his ongoing upset that his family didn’t come here to visit him. The dialogue was as follows: Andee: Did you tell them?Friend: They know.Andee: But did you tell them?Friend: They know. … … The second conversation was with someone about their work schedule. They’re well-liked,...
7 months ago • 4 min read
Good morning, Reader What does it mean to live in love? Do you ever have an intense desire to carry out a function, be some way, or say something, and then, you ignore what your gut tells you to default to a societal program that says "No, that's not right. That's inappropriate. You shouldn't... You aren't..." So, maybe you follow that latter voice, because, after all, you want to make sure your friends, your spouse, or maybe even your mother will approve. Gotta make sure your colleagues...
over 1 year ago • 4 min read
Hey, Reader I used to run into a really annoying problem. ...people thinking blanket advice is helpful. So, for example, if someone is really having a hard time motivating themselves to exercise in the morning, that person does not need the blanket advice from well-intentioned humans who say things like "it's OK to stay in bed! That's also a form of self care." Sure, that answer is right. But not for that person. And not in that situation. Sorry Charlie. Hearing people approach other people...
over 1 year ago • 2 min read
Good Monday Morning, Reader Yesterday I wrote a letter to a friend of mine in my journal. I'll never send it as it was really just for me, but I re-read it this morning to revisit whatever semblance of human I was embodying at the time, and I came upon this paragraph: "Sometimes I think of us running together down the beach on the sand without shoes. You're fast but I'm faster. I see us in my mind's eye laughing about something stupid. I see you trying to catch me but I haven't the foggiest...
over 1 year ago • 3 min read
HAPPY SATURDAY, Reader! I'm a "one day at a time" sort of human, and while last Saturday included a long run along Lake Michigan, learning to play Cribbage, and eating some killer tacos, today involved writing the first 25 pages of the introduction packet for The Day 1. Experience. and eating a single serve packet of salami and provolone cheese. It's all about the balance. ♎️ 🤷🏻♀️ 🤣 Every time I open up The Day 1. Experience, I learn something. What I learned the last time is that context for...
over 1 year ago • 3 min read
Good Morning, Reader I want to explain some of my own hurdles in making transformation, and how we address such hurdles in The Day 1. Experience. So, the first hurdle is probably the one you might be the most familiar with. This is the one where you set out to: Lose weight Start a business Begin exercising Stop drinking Leave a long-term relationship Or any of those things, and you are INSTANTLY MET WITH DOUBT FROM ALL OF YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS. Fuck those people, right? But here's the...
over 1 year ago • 5 min read
Good morning, Reader I was talking yesterday with one of the women in The Day 1. Experience. (You'll meet her when you join us.) She's exercising regularly for the first time in ages, currently training for a half marathon, and related quite a bit to the narrative of "Days 1-10" that I wrote about yesterday in my email. If you don't remember, this is how MY BRAIN used to operate: Day 1. :: MASSIVE ENTHUSIASM about all of the MASSIVE CHANGES I would be making :: Day 2. "Whoa, this is kind of...
over 1 year ago • 3 min read